The worst flag football game I ever played

First, let me admit that I am the most out of shape I've ever been in my life and that had to contribute to my worst football day ever Normally for football season, I start working out at least 30 days before the season starts. The fall season caught me by surprise and I am nowhere near where I need to be or used to be.

I know what I need to do, exercise, cardio and more exercise. The 20 or so minutes that I do daily obviously hasn't helped.

But, this is another problem mothers, especially working mothers, have. The priority list! If we take time out of our day for a full exercise program, is that quality time away from the children, the house, the yard, work that we took home, etc.?

I would love to go to the gym after work and get in my 30-60 minutes of cardio but if I do that then I probably left work on time or I will be late getting home? Somehow, something will suffer.

However, since I used to consider my self one of the top 10 women (the older I get the more I drop but that's human nature, ask Jeremiah Trotter!) in the league, I am not about to get embarassed again for the season.

Exercise, of the cardio kind, is back on my top 10 list of priorities!!!!

So for the teams I played with last week, I am sorry for my contribution to the losses but I will get better.

Here's my league,  www.fabbsports.com

 

Tags: Mothers, exercise, priorities

Off to a Foster Child Meeting

When my friend, SY, looked at like I was crazy because I told him that I was going to a information session on foster children, I knew he thought it was a bad idea.

And maybe it is. One of my philosophies of life is that you can't let fear or the unknown stop you from trying.

However, I have found out that I am a good mother. I'm not the most patient and he and I have our moments but my son is happy. And if I continue to do my job, he will remain so! Why shouldn't I bring another side of life to a needy child's life.

Part of this is to teach Amari to care about someone other then himself which is exactly where he's headed in our one-on-one existence. Hence, I'd like to adopt a brother for him. ( my thoughts on more children and getting married is another topic for this blog)

And more importantly, when I have my friend JD's child those two play all day and only bother me when they are hungry. I think its easier to take care of two than it is one. Well, I'll get to check my theory with the foster child situation. I can always say no if I don't feel that it will work out.

I'll let everyone know how the meeting went.

For more information, http://www.montgomerycountymd.gov/hhstmpl.asp?url=/content/hhs/childwelfare/foster.asp
Tags: Foster child, only child, big responsibilty

A positive thing despite the EAGLES lost last night

Well, as the EAGLES lost last night to the Redskins I thought of another positive thing about raising Amari without a dad in the house. He will never be a Redskins, Dallas or Giant fan!

My loves are his loves so its EAGLES all the way. A true fan doesn't desert she just waits for the wins!!!

 

Tags: EAGLES

Follow up to frustration

I felt the love people! Thanks for the emails and calls!

I spoke to Amari's father last week and while the situation will remain the same. It appears and I'm hopeful that the blatant disrespect will not.

It was a 45 minute sprint to try and get all the issues on the table that caused him to do the old "I'm not gonna call" routine. That's what I found so crazy! By the time we are out of high school we know that we need to let a person know if we're going to be late/noshow whatever so I knew it had to be some underlying reason...

So key points from the talk

He still resents the fact and can not stand when I "tell" ( I think that's the remnants from our relationship)him to do anything for Amari especially since he never wanted a baby in the first place so a lot of our issues are coming from there.

He still can't get past that he "ruined" his own life. The word is a bit dramatic but you get the point. I told him that he's had a long time to move on. Perhaps he should seek therapy to help him accept the choices that he's made and the consequences of those actions. In other words, MAN UP!

The funny part of the conversartion was how he showed concern for the Amari's wellbeing. He said he wondered what will happen when I got married and he got married. I won't go into details but if the man is not concerned with Amari's wellbeing today why the hell is he wondering about the future. I think its another cop out or excuse to move away from fatherhood or he's self protecting himself agaonst any hurt he may feel if he gets close to Amari.

I have to stop threatening him with exposure because that really upsets him. So no more implied threats. if I really want to do something to hurt him I'll have to follow NIKE's advice and JUST DO IT!

Bottom line: No cut off! Proverbs 3:5

Re: Announcing AOL Journal: Amari's Mom

Damn Mi-, Dude always be messing up.  Don't sweat it. Amari will be fine. There are kids in worst shape then he and will also do fine.. The strong will survive and get stronger.. You need to move on and trust in a higher authority and and just let that hero be a zero and in time he will get his.  I really believe no good will come to a man who puts a young'n through this crap.  It's a whole generation of kids in the same boat but luckily Amari is surrounded with love and affection from the village. So don't let the sweat get in your eyes b/c the little man will notice it and perhaps not digest it so well.  Hang tuff sister.. I know it's easier said then done but if anyone can do it, you are the one.  Blessed you are so keep the positives flowing and all else is out of your hands anyway.. A loser is hard to deter but he will have to answer one day and I don't think it's going to be pretty. Respect, Love and Peace. 

 

Oh by the way Philly sucks this year maybe you should try the other end of the state, baby!!

Navigation

How does one navigate the relationship with your child's father? I've been understanding, nice, angry, flippant, unaffected and the list goes on.

He was supposed to come and visit today after he rescheduled from Sunday. No visit, no call, and no response to my outreach.

My philosophy is no matter what bullsh -- he puts a mom through a son needs his father and so I will continue this dance until my child tells me to stop and says Fuc- him. But, that could be ten years from now.

My first thought is to disrespect him in some way but what could be solved by that?

I'll just write in this blog until I calm down.....

Tags: Fathers, children