Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving!

Amari and I had a nice one. We always travel to Philly and have dinner at my aunt's house. The crowd is usually smaller at Thanksgiving and then for Christmas it increases. Amari finally seems to remember everyone so no more excuses from me about his sometime self. One thing, I feel reasonably comfortable with is that he is not one of those kids who runs up to complete strangers, And heaven forbid someone try to pick him up. He will scream the moment someone does that!

Got a few texts from friends, so that was cool. But between washing clothes on Wednesday, packing, driving  and then working this morning, this is the first moment that I feel like I could relax. Its so nice to be home and relax a bit on the Mommy duties.

Things that I am thankful for are my family, friends , new job and of course my wonderful, funny, handsome, and healthy son! Having Amari really makes me smile and although I realized I still have work to do on my patience I feel like we are getting closer and closer.

Tags: Thanksgiving

Oh the Joy!

This weekend I saw the movie "Why Did I Get Married?" and thought it was good. A bit preachy, but good. The part that really effected me was  Jill Scott's part. Not the overly manaipulative part (mental abuse) but the part when she  spoke about waking up with joy. That is how I feel about A's father. He has stolen a bit of mine. And now I am going to get it back.

Unfortunately, it probably will require more anger and hostility, but if he doesn't want to be a father then I can't make him one. I will continue doing what I have to do and keeping him in the loop but I will no longer expect for him to step up, return my calls, or anything. It will be as he wanted, he's nothing more than another person in A's village and whatever he chooses to do will be blessed by GOD and welcomed by me. It is my hope that removing this negavtivity from my son's life and my own it will allow us to be happier people. A hasn't really bonded with his dad, although I'm sure that would happen if they spent more time together. So, at this young age he won't notice the lost.

Don't get me wrong, he only took a little piece from me, but as my friend GP said, "you've always been a bit self-centered." So I need to make sure all my joy is in me. ;-) I will raise Amari with the esteem and independence that is a hallmark of my family so when he reaches out to his father, as I am sure he will, it will be on his terms and when he's ready to face a man who wasn't ready to face him.

Tags: why did I get married?, Jill Scott,

Woo hoo, Amari Might Make 6'

I  just took a the height predictor test on Parent Center and Amari is predicted to reach 6' 1". Not that I'm worried about it. I was just curious!

Its just that the man, as many of you know, that I chose to have a child with isn't the tallest man on the basketball court. Which is another unbelievable part of this story. Some of my friends who heard and know who he is were more surprised by his height, 5' 10"! (:-)

Anyway, for you parents that want to check your child's height here's the link, http://parentcenter.babycenter.com/child-height-predictor

 

Tags: Height predictor, children

Happy Halloween!

Well, Amari and I had our first "trick or treat", costume wearing, walk the neighborhood Halloween. And I must say that I was really surprised at how much fun it was! Olney is really a nice town, I mean some of the houses went all out to celebrate. We had a real graveyard, adults were dressed up, the kids were so cute and I met a lot of my neighbors!

Now, I see why my old co-worker, MC, smiled when she was talking about her daughter dressing up. I have to say Amari looked so sweet as a d----! And when the neighbors were like, " Awww, he's so cute." I had another Mommy moment! He was adorable! Although a bit shy at first. But, once he understood saying "trick or treat" was a way to get candy he was cool.

I'm glad that my commute didn't stop me from missing it!

Now, we definitely need to go to the dentist!

Tags: Halloween, costumes, adorable kids, neighbors