Well, its official. Amari's father is an asshole! Stop laughing! I'm done with him but I will have fun next year playing the role baby's mama. Why not? I have tried to respect the fact that he is my son's father but since its obviously a role that he's doesn't want then I will no longer show him that respect.
I just want everyone to know that I will enjoy myself, I will not demean myself, will do nothing illegal, and hopefully get some retribution. First thing I've done is put our case through the system. After some advice from a friend of mine, who said to make sure that there is a record of Amari and Russell in the system as father and son just in case he starts making babies with another woman. Well, at least in Maryland there'll be a record! My fellow single moms, please get your child as much financial help as possible. Think about college, emergency funds, food, clothing, the purple Soy milk and how much each one of these costs and go get what you deserve.
Why I didn't do this earlier is because he asked me not too and a friend of mine, who's a lawyer, said that I could get more if we don't go through the court system said that keeping the county out of my business. But in 2008, its time to eliminate his concerns and focus on what's best for Amari and I. Its been three no four years for him to come to grip with his responsibilities and he hasn't so I guess its time for Uncle Sam to help!
I gotta go private with this journal because I believe in the element of surprise and just in case I start documenting the 2008 Baby Mama Drama I don't want everyone to know how low I can go!
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For me, this is a positive note. I have put Russell's needs and wants b4 mine since I wanted him to be a father to Amari.
I'll try and explain. I have felt for a long time that I was kissing a-- to get him to be part of Amari's world. And I think he mistook my kindness for weakness. Don't know because he refuses to speak to me. And from his actions, he refuses to be part of Amari's life. That's his choice but I am not going to sit here and not do anything about it. I am not that kind of person. Never have been and never will. I've prayed on it and will continue to do so but right now, my anger is directed and focused.
Revenge may be a strong word to use. Its more like, if its in my power to make my wishes for Amari to come to fruition, then I need to do something about it. I am not a passive person, I'm not even a passive-aggressive person. But, I've played that role for 4 years, its over.
Every action, and in this case inaction, has a consequence ( something I've told Russell over and over). First, we'll have the court ordered child support so money will not be an issue and then his family will have to know that there is another member of the family out there. I don't know if that's revenge but since I believe these are the two areas that will "hurt" him the most since he could have done something about it, I will feel better about myself knowing that I took control of the situation in place of letting him decide what's best for Amari.
The more I think about it the more angry at myself I get. And that's probably why I decided to do what I can this year to be proactive. Think about it, I let him decide how much $$$ Amari should get since he didn't pay the original amount we decided on and he's been the gatekeeper as to whether Amari should know his family. I could go on...
Happy New Year! I heard you and Atiya had a great time at the party. I had a good night as well too. I wish you lots of happiness and prosperity for the new year, but most importantly I wish you peace. You said something the other day that really disturbed me but I am not sure how seriously you were. I am talking about the comment that you made about getting revenge on Russell. I can only imagine the pain and hurt that you are feeling, but it is not going to serve you or Amari trying to get back at Russell when he is only being the person that he is. It is unfortunate that we did not discover these traits before hand, but I can not be too upset for he blessed us with Amari!! Maisha you are blessed in so many ways. You have a great supportive family, just got a new job making good money, you are able to have a week to yourself because of your parents taking your son once of month. You have a house, a car, heat, etc......With all of these blessings, how could you possibly start of the new year so negatively. Count your blessings and remember, Russell is doing bad all by himself, he does need your help! I love you very much! Have a great day!
Yo girl u crazy as hell!!!!! RC:)
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