My daddy told me a long time ago to never issue an ultimatum to a man. So I haven't. So why is that I get them all the time.
The last one was over birth control and who should be responsible. Here's my thoughts, if the man really doesn't want to father a child then he should safeguard himself by always using a condom and/or get a vasectomy.
If a woman doesn't want a child she should get on birth control and use a condom. Me, I use a condom to protect myself from pregnancy and more importantly to protect myself from the dreaded STDs.
I am a child of the 80's and lived in NYC so I saw the effects of AIDS and met people who later died from the disease. So for me, a condom isn't optional its a must. And I don't tell my lover that I am on BC because I never want him to feel comfortable trying that one time to slip it in.
So imagine my ex's surprise when he told me to get on BC or else. I told him I respected his choices but I'd have to take the else. A child I could live with if I had to make that choice again ( although one that I could adopt is my the other option) but a STD for life, well that's a no no.
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